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Where can i find an online support group for sex addiction? im only 17 so i cant say to my mom "hey ma, i think i have a problem because i cant stop ******* boys, please take me to a shrink"
where can i find support groups where i talk about this | | Well, I don't have an answer for you, but have you tried to find a trustworthy adult that is not related to you. There are good people out there. Just make sure you can trust, btw, you cute teacher is not your trustworthy adult. He/she could possibly be very nice and trustworthy, but don't turn to them cause u like them. Have an older teacher or coach, someone you can trust and have a talk with them. a lot of times they can be the solution. hope it helps. | Should I continue, or are group books (even large, diverse groups) over and done with? I'm writing a story about a group of 7 friends... i easily get bored with only one character, so i enjoy group books, but those can be often seen as a lame attempt at sex in the city or desperate housewives.
Mine consists of three guys and two girls, their inter-twining relationships, and just their lives. each chapter is a month, and features on a week in the month, each day being the life of a different character. I'm kind of afraid that it might get confusing, and i can see how, considering that the plot is complicated to begin with and grows more complicated with each month.
I am trying very hard to not make it too stereo-typical, and that's why it's not about three girls in L.A., but seven friends in Manhattan(i know, cliche, but it was sort of an accidental location). Also, not all of their issues are purely sexual. One is an alcoholic, one is tracking down a murderer, etc.
The point is: is this too cliche for me to continue, or should i at least attempt to keep going?
here's an excerpt ( sorry, it's a bit long, but the best example of the group together):
“You look pale. You sure you should be drinking?” I nodded, and sipped my Heineken.
“He does look pale.” Veronica squinted into my face and I pushed her away.
“I’m fine, guys!” I smiled, trying to disarm them.
“Hm. Where’s Frank?” Amy still stared at me, but changed the subject.
“He called me and said that he was going to be late.”
“What about Sam and Judy?”
“Judy is on her way, and Nina is coming back so Sam couldn’t make it.” I looked up.
“Would any of you tell your boyfriend that you went shopping at a guyren’s store? Or call him a nick-name you know he hates? Or tell him you love him?” I asked. Judy sat down at the table, and answered first.
“Tell him you love him after he tells you. And if you really want the guy you never talk about marriage or guys before he does, or until you’re engaged.” She looked around the table and asked, “What are you guys having?”
“Heineken.”
“Guinness. And I agree with you. The guy is going to be scared off if you tell him you love him too early. I once told a guy I wanted guys after we had been dating for a month, and he got scared off, said I was “rushing things,”” said Veronica.
“Same, and I don’t see why you can’t tell him you love him. If you really do love him, you should be able to express how you feel,” answered Amy. Veronica scoffed, and said,
“Remember Jeremy? You and he dated for three months, and while you two were ******* he said he loved you, and since you were screwing you knew he didn’t mean it, and you still were creeped out. You are such a hypocrite, Amy.”
“Oh.” She looked up at me and asked, “Why? Did someone tell you they loved you, wanted to have guys, and called you Jeff all in one?”
“No. Nina called Samuel Sammy, told him she loved him, and said she had gone into a guyren’s clothing store with her mother.” Veronica whistled, and Judy burst out laughing. Amy just looked perplexed.
“She said this to Samuel?” laughed Judy, leaning over the table. “Jesus, she has got to be really good in the sack for him to still be going out with her! I mean, really, really good.”
“Remember Harriet?”
“Oh yeah. She got their photos merged to see what their guys would look like.”
“How long did she last?”
“Four weeks and two days.”
“What about Jane?”
“My God she was awful. I hated her.”
“Me too. She always wore pink and called him Sammy all the time!”
“And Suzanne, she told him she loved him on their second date.”
“Oh My God! I can’t believe you guys forgot Karen!” I burst out laughing remembering her.
“Oh yes! I’ll never forget that... My first proposal.”
“I still can’t believe she proposed to him! After three months of dating!”
“And in front of us!” Everyone was laughing hysterically, and when the waitress arrived for Judy, all she could do was weakly point at my beer. When we had all calmed down, I looked at Judy and asked her,
“Aren’t you supposed to be at Jake’s moms?”
“I was, but I claimed to have too much work to do.”
“You know, Judy, lying is no foundation for a marriage,” Veronica joked. Judy covered her ears and said,
“Oh God! Don’t say that word.”
“Don’t say what word?” Frank had arrived, beer in hand, and sat down.
“Marriage.”
“I said to not say it!”
“Where did you get the beer?”
“You guys do know that there is a bar here?”
“Oh, that long table over there? I just thought it was for dancing on,” said Veronica.
“Only after eleven.” We laughed and Judy uncovered her ears to take a sip of her Heineken.
“So what’s up with you, Frank?”
“Not much. You tell them about Nina?”
“Yeah. We were just discussing Sam’s other catastrophes, like Karen.”
“Oh yeah... She was twenty-nine, too.” I laughed, but nudged him in an effort to tell him to not mention his theories around the girls.
“What’s that supposed to mean?” asked Judy, raising one eyebrow.
“It means that when a woman turns twenty-nine she reali | | I don't think that "group" novels are cliche, if done well. However, I think you do need to be concerned about confusion - I've read a lot of books of this kind where I can't keep the characters straight or remember what name goes with one plot line. If there is a lot of character development (and unique names don't hurt), I think you could be successful with this. Instead of featuring a character per day, why not each character per week (or even month?) That might be less confusing and give more continuity. | Can i conclude myself being bisexual since i havent had sex with a girl? You're thoughts guys really helped me alot
relieve from my depressions somehow..
But here's how it goes,
i used to have sex with a boy for a month
and went into a relationship for a month more..
fyi, he's quite soft and he even said that he liked
me because i was all straight-acting..
but i wasn't that ready into a samesex relationship yet.
we just go out and eat together because
i felt like i wanted to be with him..
i even exposed him to my group of friends.
i always ask him to come with us and hang-out..
and my friends welcomed him..
and still keep denying our secret of having sex..
and still insisting that he is my high school classmate
even if it's not and we just met..
though they were all asking because it was all fishy..
i havent had any girlfriends yet..
just some mutual understandings but it did not work out..
i wanted to be picky and sure when it comes to girls..
i just told my friends that he was my highschool clasmate..
but that was me already being my true self..
being too dependent to someone whom
im with together for a long time especially to
my best buddies and friends..
the only difference is i had sex with him.
and to my friends, i did not. ofcourse we never thought of it..
i just said to myself to just go..
and why not try since he was all on it..
i find it that he must had influenced me or something too some exposures that i shouldnt had
if i was just in the stage of curiousity..
but i dont want to blame someone because of my fault..
it was my decision after all..
i also found out that it was all normal
for teenagers to have those kinds of curiousity..
i feel bad for myself and disappointed..
i went over the limit of curiousity and
tried to suck and being sucked..kissed and other stuffs..
no ******* again..but we tried though but it did not happen..
if i could had just controlled myself from that time and
did not boost into doing something like that..
i should be sure of myself still as a straight man..
but im not now..
even not sure if bisexual or gay, since i havent tried
having sex with a girl..
but i always wanted to have a girl partner..
but preferably,
for all you guys, i would be so much
comfortable if i could just prove that
im still a straight boy..
i even never had thoughts of coming out..
i just wanted to have some fun..
i just want to make sure and feel sure of myself again..
please help me again.. and
if possible share more experiences and thoughts of yours..
and you can always feel free to post whatever
comments and conclusions you would like to say..
thanks | | Having been bi my whole life I must point out that bisexuality is question of what you feel not what you do. If you sexually respond to both sexes then you are bi, if you have a marked preference for one over the other in purely physical rather socially dictated terms you would be straight or gay. That you had a gay encounter is not, strictly speaking, relevant unless you enjoyed it enough to make it a regular part of your sexuality. Since you chose to have your first encounter with a same sex partner rather than wait for a girl there is, at the very least, some gay tendency present, but that doesn't mean that you are committed for life. Our libidos want what they want, when you find the right person your body will let you know, until then don't worry about it. | Please Help Me Evaluate My Relationship: Is She A Slut? Please, I need some help here.
I'm a senior in high school. I've been dating this girl off-and-on since my sophomore year. When we met, she was in 8th grade. So its my senior year, she's now a sophomore, and I want to get serious. But there are a lot of things holding me back.
For one thing, she used to live in my town, but she moved about 30 miles away. She's what you would call kinda emo. She used to cut herself a lot, and she tells me she stops, but IDK if she really has. The first summer we were together there was a loottttt of calls to me from her where she was crying, and of course I tried all I could to help her.
She dresses in black a lot, and she hangs out with that group of people. You know, really stupid, drugs, sex, ******* asshole guys, slutty chicks, etc.
Last year, we started talking about sex and stuff, at which time she told me she was a virgin. After breaking up (BECAUSE SHE DID COCAINE AND THAT REALLY PISSED ME OFF), we took about a month off, and then got back together. She admitted to me she used to do drugs all the time, and that she lost her virginity in 7th grade, which means she lied to me about being a virgin, and also that tells me that you know, she's not completely an angel :(
Well after that, of course I was pissed off, and we took another month off, and of course, got back together. So after a few months of dating (Now like 2 years dating off-and-on) she calls me crying telling me one of her friends (which I told her was a douchebag from the start) tried to make out with her, and she kinda kissed him back, but then she got mad at him, and she was like "Omg i though the was my best friend, but he just wanted in my pants." Which I told her "No ******* ****."
So after that things were a bit rough, and we kinda stopped dating a bit. Then we hook up again, and after a couple weeks I see on her profile that some 20 year old guy from out of state is posting comments on her pic like "sexy, cute hot, yummy, etc." That really pissed me off, really hurt me a lot too. but even worst, i questioned her about it and she said "Well, I know its kinda weird but he's one of my good friends so just leave it alone." It pissed me off, and I told her friend that after all of the stuff she put me through (I'm leaving out a lot) that I didn't trust her. Of course, her friend told her, and she got mad at me and we broke up. So then she started dating that 20 year old guy (well of course just like an internet relationship). After a while, I messaged her seeing how she was, cuz I still cared for her, and I wanted to at least be friends. She says she misses me, that she's sorry, etc. We get back together.
For exactly 2 days we are together, she stops texting me for a while, then she starts texting me, saying shes skipping school with some senior dude friends of hers, in one of the dudes trucks, and their driving around. My natural reaction, jealousy and rage, but I didn't tell her anything.
Later on, we're still texting, and shes at one of teh guys houses. She texts me "im drinking kool-aid, i think they put something in it"
What would I think? HOLY **** OMG NO WTF IS GOING TO HAPPEN?!
So then, someone starts messaging me from her phone "Hey do you mind if we get your GF drunk?" "Hey, if we got her drunk it would be a real benefit to us, if you know what i mean" and a bunch of other ****** up ****. Then they say "oh yeah, there was a party and she got drunk and she started going at it with sum1. it started with tears and ended with laughter. and she was moaning your name"
Holy ****, I drew the line right there. Punch my fist threw a few walls. She gets the phone back a bit later, finds out whats going on, and demands the guy to take her home (or at least thats what she told me)
So then that night, we're texting, and im asking her like "wtf was he talking about" She says, "yeah i got drunk and slept with some1 but it wasn't a guy, it was my friend briana. jack please dont be mad at me i was depressed cuz me and you broke up" and blah blah balh. I got super pissed, and I was really ******* hurt. All the **** that ever pissed me off with her, just came exploding out, and I wrote about 9 pages worth of ******* **** to her, telling her off, tellin gher how bad she always ***** me over, etc.
She gets all sad, emo again, and cries to me on the phone.
We make up the next day. WE GET BACK TOGETHER ( I know im ******* sad)
Well anyways, that was 3 weeks ago, and now we are back together, but I still have all this **** going on in my head. Is she a slut, has she only slept with 1 guy, and now that 1 chick? Is there more than that? What has she done that she hasn't told me? ETc. And I really really really ******* hate the people she hangs out with, and she always skips with them, which is partly her fault, but also the peer pressure factor and stuff, IDK, i love her, but I hate everyone else that she hangs out with.
In our whole relationship, I have | WALK.. you should have at the first lie!
First off.. your a senior in high school.. dude live it up.. why are you tied down to one girl anyways.. its a really awkward position you're in because of your age (no offense, but your age and lack of experience makes you somewhat weak minded) and you have a false attachment to her!
Correct me if im wrong and be honest, You're biggest issue with separating from her is the thought of her being with another person, you run thoughts of her being Intimate with another guy when your not with her through your head.. and it drives you nuts... Sorry but that's not love its a jealousy attachment.. and not in your best interest!
If she lied once she will again, and the "i was depressed bc we broke up" excuse is just pathetic, give yourself some credit here, your not that naive, would you expect your gf to buy that **** if you gave her an excuse like that for acting that way, even if it was with a girl it was still in front of guys think about it (YOUR girlfriend, put herself in a position that was serving the sole purpose of arousing RANDOM GUYS)
My opinion is ditch the girl, she is never going to change her ways, and regardless of how you feel right now, you have WAY more options than you think!!
If you're asking the question then you should already know the right answer, if its support your looking for, any person who genuinely cares about you will say the same thing! | I'm starting to get depression, how to fight against my dysfunctional life? One of the girls I hang out with every day is having her birthday party and she didn't invite me. I speak to her EVERY DAY at school. We sit next to each other at lunch and hang out all of quior...
My "former" best friend was at my work and I spoke to her. I told her about one of my new friends that I'm hanging out with and she said "What's wrong with him? Why would he want to hang out with you?" And no she wasn't trying to me be mean. That's normal for her. We lost... our closeness... because I was dating someone and she wanted me to pay more attention to her. I have tried to get her to hang out with me 3 times since Halloween and she won't call/reply back! (But yes she does clearly say she loves me and wants to be around me...)
My ex that I knew for 7 years is a constant struggle. She ******* hates me and we have no contact. Her life is as if she never knew me and building everything back up is excruciating. Just not running into her is excruciating. We were engaged. She lives in a fantasy world... I mean she's got some mental problems.. so.... that explains that. But for me, every little ******* thing is a struggle. I still think about her a lot which is hell enough. But I'm dating. So this is good.
My mom is in a hospital. She's a burden and she doesn't even have the will to be a normal adult and take care of herself.
My dad is even worse, he's a full-blown hoarder and lunatic. His house is like the kind they show on A & E.
My Grandmother is old and senile and disgusting. I have to treat her normally, despite the fact that's she's ******* lost it. I just turned 18 but I still live here... I get free insurance until I graduate and I take a lot of medicine so I have to... She digs though the garbage and doesn't wash her hands, she farts all of the time and expects me to accept it.
I get sick A LOT. I have asthma and allergies, and it's stressful...
I am beautiful, amazing, awesome. I have an iq of 134 but I have to take stupid idiot classes in High School just to graduate. I'm wasting my life with all of the other retards... schooling is supposed to make you smart but I have to be in level one courses because of my old school...
My school is a bad school. There are gangs and there have been over 5 fights this year so far... some people have guyren, and some talk about their group sex, there are a lot of drugs addicts and everyone is poor... over 60% of the school they said. If you get hurt they will stand there and laugh instead of calling an ambulance. It's very stressful because I can't even make friends.
I work at a shitty job. It's monotonous. I need a job though, but I hate college and I can't afford it. I go ABOVE AND BEYOND at work and I deserve working for someone that needs me!
These are things that depress me. And no I can't talk to like a counselor or something. I am afraid of them putting me on depression medication. I have had bad experiences where I have been forced to be on medication because of my family's past. I cannot trust them. I would if I wasn't afraid of being forced to be on medication... if they'd just understand me and try to help me... but they don't. | | You are an Adult Autistic, and welcome to the club. We are so intelligent that everything sucks and we cannot make sense out of it all. Back in the old days my IQ was measured at 650, so they made me take a retest and it came out 750. Nowadays there are better tests, so I would be in your range. The explanation is 300 pages, in my bio, below. | Co-workers having sex in therapy room. (10 Points)? It's hard to be nice to this only male staff at the day program named Anthony. Inside I want to be mean to him so much. "So, how was your little session with Alisha?" or "Is Alisha any good?" Other staff told me they don't like each other. However, I was walking by a therapy room and I heard something but I can't tell what it was - the clients were in the common room watching a movie.
So, here's the thing. Any group that Alisha runs Anthony comes and sits in the room. They don't talk much in their office only sometimes. When he first met her she was stretching and arched her back showing the out line of her **** and laughed at whatever stupid joke he said. I walked by their office one day and they were talking about crime - which to me is a boring subject and only corny therapists would talk about that how we have to make this world a safer place. We have to make this world a safer place without easy women.
Also, last friday I was walking pass anthony in the hall when he was talking to some female staff and he stared me down. I continued watching the movie in the common room then left and walked around bored - I didn't see them in the office and my heart jumped to my throat and I started to get sweaty, at times it was hard to breath and I was getting so pissed off because he has nothing on me and why she chosed him over me. I begin checking the bathroom - no sign. I walked pass the therapy room when I heard something. I don't know if it was someone in the common room laughing or what. I went to a staff and talked to her and she assured me that the interns were in a meeting at another building.
Also, I hate when women give mixed-signals! I caught her glancing at me a couple of times, when I talk with her she smiles really big, and when she called on me in group she tilted her head. When I was talking to another female staff about her cooking on friday Alisha smiled then probably because I was being funny and teasing the other staff. When I caught her smiling then she turned away and looked on the floor.
Also, why do the women just stare at you - are they in outer space or in La La land - but I don't understand why they do that. That's a whole different topic.
I know I like this girl - but I can't have her which sucks. When I was all decked out and really wanting to make this guy know I'm the **** - I felt confident and was fine. However, maybe she talks about me - don't know but when I would stare someone down - it's standing my ground or trying to intimate them to back off. Like the stare down he was giving me when I passed him in the hallway - so is this guy intiminated or is he pissed off because of whatever reason.
I need some direction here people - I hate these distorted thinking and I hate getting anxious whenever I think some hot girl is ******* some other guy beside me.
Oh, best answer gets 10 points guaranteed. | | You do have some distorted thinking, don't think so much, just be as charming as you can with women, but make sure that it is you and you are not acting, in other words, be yourself, and stop thinking everyone is out to get you. | How to find out if he is playing around? There is this guy I met 2 years ago over the net. We often do online sex and he seems very caring. But he said he might go back to his past girlfriend who he said to hate her before because she sleeps with every kind of life around her. He mentioned about kissing a guy once. And dancing with Elton John on a night club back to high school. And touching a penis while having sex group. He says he loves me but is not in love with me however is confused. And seems jealous f the guy I am dating. I decided blocking him for good since he was doing my mind no good AT ALL!!!!!! He said twice he would have to honor me. Other time I will have to belong to him forever. And etc and etc and etc. And one time calls me lover the other friend. The other cute. The other slut. What is going on? By the way his past girlfriend who he might go back to her is an ******* old no one knows loser actress who is a lesbian and a jerk to him. Maybe I was to nice to him. But that is just me. | | .With this saga on his life.Why would you even bother.His life is about hoes,gays,lesbians and has beens.Personally l think he's gay. | What's going on in middle school these days?!? Ok, so the was a major WTF moment for me when I found out this 12 year old girl at my school got pregnant and had a baby! Who the hell has sex at ******* 12 years old!? I just turned 13 a few months ago (march) and even I know this girl was seriously **** up. Where were the parents? Where in the world did she have sex at? Why would you even be thinking about that at 12?! And get this, I haven't even been in a relationship before and I see girls making out near the bathroom and behind walls at school! The hell is this world coming too? Parents these days don't know how to raise their ******* guyren. How do you support a baby at 12? Why are guyren so fast? They really need to slow the **** down! Then boys are talking about girls breast sizes and **** which really bothers me and then they stare at my ***. WTF. Focus on you're studies idiot so you can pass the 7th grade. I'm not even having sex at all with my future boyfriend, because I know that he really likes me if he's willing to wait for like 15 years for it when we actually get married. These are 12-14 year old guyren having sex and making out at school. I'm glad they have that PDA thing now! I also saw a group of guys smoking! They were 12-13 years old because I see them in my classes. What next? Are guys going to start doing crack? By the way, I'm black so don't think about any of those stereotypes, it pisses me off that when people hear things like this they think of black people, even if it's 95 percent of the time true. | | I don't know,but I heard one story that had a boy who had a haircut with an image of boobs.Yep it is also true that the girls are felt up over my area.It's normal these days,I got out of middle school four years ago.At my middle school there was a person from my school fighting with cops at the my local fair.The middle schoolers also smoked in my area.I didn't have sex or do drugs in middle school or high school. | So sick of being single.....!? yeah i know this is sad, putting this on yahoo answers at 2:00 in the morning but who really gives a ****. I'm just so sick of always being nice to people and doing my best to work hard in school, be nice, keep an open mind, and be an all around good person and then when I want to find someone to date, theres NOTHING. Thanks to the redneck or ghetto ************(choose your ******* poison) town I live in the group of people who are capable of maintaining an intellectually stimulating conversation are about 5 people that I know. There is no real way for me to branch out too much because I'm still in highschool and the nearest "big" town is a good 45min to an hour drive. I've had a few girlfriends, but they were hardly that and went absolutely no where. I'm a ******* junior (about to be a senior) 17 year old guy and I haven't gotten anything in the department of love/sex. So yeah, it ******* sucks.
Anyone else here in a similar situation as me??? | | dude be confident man, get some swagger and run that ****... Im an intellectual as well but once you learn confidence that is all you will need to get anyone | Why are feminist groups legal? I don't see how a feminist group is any different from a male sexist group. We have laws banning discrimination based on sex. Plenty of women get jobs that men applied for, and if the woman feels that there was sexism going on behind the scenes, she can file a court case, these women don't need a whole ******* army to back them up. People are entitled to their own opinion and saying sexist's can't voice their opinion doesn't change it, listen if you want, don't listen if you don't want to, these shows make fun of everyone, and in fact, make fun of women the least. With all of this in mind, your groups are pointless, you have nothing you can do, enforcing a law twice doesn't make it any better. Because of this, anyone who believes in equal rights for all has no purpose in a feminist group, by process of elimination, these groups become sexist. | do you REALLY feel excluded and denied rights by women's groups? or do you just like to ***** about stuff?
"exclusion is more likely to be perceived as an attempt to promote its own identity rather than as a characterization of the excluded group as an inferior class."- Whatever you say about it, maleness is traditionally and historically associated as being the dominant group in America, especially white maleness. White men purposefully excluded women, free blacks and slaves from being part of the political process through creating ridiculous voting laws (including property ownership) when most non-white/non-men were considered merely property themselves. Long struggles to gain access to FUNDAMENTAL human rights do not diminish the rights of white males. White males can still vote, go to school, get jobs, receive financial benefits from the government, etc. There is just more competition because MORE people are considered to deserve the same treatment. You don't DESERVE a job because of your race or gender. You deserve the right to try. Yes some organizations have sexist hiring practices. Most do not. Some feminists are man-haters, most are not.
The power of inclusion of formally marginalized groups goes a long way, and if that makes you feel uncomfortable, maybe you need to revisit your own personal biases. |
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